Personal Effectiveness

Anup K Singh
 Personal Effective
Through Self-
Knowledge
• Self is most important, controllable resource
• Self has a role in everything that happens to me
• Self can transform a threat into an opportunity
• Self becomes what it thinks
• Self can be self-limiting or self- enhancing
• The only way out is the way in
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 Principles of Personal
Effectiveness

 It is your responsibility

 It is a conscious process

 Appropriate external/internal challenge is

necessary

 The rewards are often intrinsic

 Others can help if they are more mature

and developed
 It involves change in oneself

 It requires personal risk taking

 It entails some amount

of discomfort

 It requires learning how

to learn
 KNOWN NOT
TO KNOWN
SELF TO
SELF

KNOWN TO ARENA BLIND

OTHERS

NOT CLOSED DARK

KNOWN
TO
OTHERS

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 OPEN PERSON
• FRIENDLY
• TRUSTWORTHY
• EFFECTIVE
A B
• TRANSPARENT
• SENSITIVE TO OTHERS
C D
• EASY TO UNDERSTAND
• SOCIAL
• NO FACADE
 BLIND PERSON
• IMPERCEPTIVE
• AVOIDS OTHERS
• TOP DOWN APPROACH
A B • POOR LISTENER
• UNAWARE
C D
• AUTHORITARIAN
• BULL IN CHINA SHOP
• UNCONCERNED
 SECRETIVE PERSON
• UNKNOWN
• MISUNDERSTOOD
A B • SEEN WITH SUSPICION
• SELF-ORIENTED
C D
• GOOD LISTENER
• UNTRUSTWORTHY
• DISTANT
• RESERVED
 GROWTH TOWARDS MATURITY
• Dependence to Interdependence
• Behaving in a Few to Many Ways
• Casual, Shallow, Quickly Developed
Interests to Deeper Interests
• Short Term to Long Term
Perspective
• Subordinate Position to Equal
Position
• Poor Awareness of Self to
 SELF-CONCEPT AND COMMUNICATION
(PATTERN FOR HIGH SELF-CONCEPT)
• Talk firmly, without hesitation
• Comfortable with others they view as
superior
• Perform well when being watched
• Have assured and open non-verbal
communication
• Expect to be accepted by others
• Listening and empathizing skills
• Open to criticism
• Likely to think well of others
SELF-CONCEPT AND COMMUNICATION
(PATTERN FOR LOW SELF-CONCEPT)
• Defensive and hesitant
• Likely to Disapprove of others
• Feel threatened by people they view as
superior
• Sensitive to negative reactions
• Tend to justify themselves
• Apprehensive of rejection by others
• Pessimistic view of their social skills and
outcome of their actions
CLUES TO DEFENSIVE BEHAVIOURS
• HOLD TO MY POSITION
• DON’T LISTEN TO OTHERS
• MISINTERPRET WHAT OTHERS SAY
• STOP TALKING AND BEGIN WITHDRAWING
• FEELS THAT NO ONE UNDERSTANDS ME
• GET EASILY IRRITATED
• DON’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT CERTAIN THINGS
• BECOME INDIGNANT WHEN CHALLENGED
• LOSE SENSE OF HUMOUR
 HEAD TAPES
• I’LL MAKE IT WORK • I CAN’T
• I CAN • OTHERS ARE BETTER
• THIS IS MY RIGHT • WHAT WILL OTHERS
• MY NEEDS ARE AS SAY
IMPORTANT AS OF • I MUSTN’T MAKE
OTHERS MISTAKES
• I’M COMPETENT • I FAILED IN THE
• I MUST TRY PAST
• PLAY SAFE
 SELF-AWARENESS

SAFETY I GROWTH

RISK TAKING
 ACKNOWLEDGE A PARTICULAR PATTERN

UNDERSTAND ITS IMPLICATIONS IN DIFFERENT SITUATIONS

FOCUS ON SPECIFIC BEHAVIOUR

EXPERIMENTING WITH THE BEHAVIOUR

REWARDING SELF