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Kylee Phillips
Mrs. Cramer
1 October 2021
Hallmark movies have always been what I wanted life to be. The perfect, simple, lovely
lifestyle that every main character of those movies lived. Surprise, if you didn’t already know,
life is nothing like a Hallmark movie. Life is full of challenges at every turn you take, like when
I broke my arm, got put in timeout in preschool, or failed a test for the first time, but as I’ve
gotten older the challenges have become longer term than before. It was seventh grade year when
my friends and I all decided to try out for the volleyball team. The memories I have from my
years of playing with my friends, are some that I will cherish forever. I never played the sport
because I was going to be a Division One athlete, but because it was something that helped form
Then came high school and the new coach. For the purpose of this essay, we will call him
Coach Joe. You see, Coach Joe made it extremely apparent whose company he enjoyed and
whose he did not. I was continuously a part of the did not group. This made my love for the sport
begin to fade as early as the first practice we had freshman year. However, I kept playing
because of my friends and because I wanted to share those memories with them. Come junior
year however, the neglect evolved. Rather than the typical speaking and being ignored, I walked
into the first practice of my junior year and was told that I was a member of my friends’ team,
but I was not allowed to practice with them. The feeling that came over me having to walk away
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from my friends was one of the saddest things I have ever experienced. The rest of that week I
spent every day dreading going into that gym because the sadness overwhelmed me every time. I
began questioning my own self-worth. I was raised with the attitude that you determine your own
happiness and that you must choose yourself when you feel defeated. So, that was exactly what I
did. August 23rd was the last day I ever played high school volleyball. If I learned anything from
this experience, it’s that sometimes its ok to choose yourself. I could’ve continued feeling
defeated every day in an environment where I was supposed to feel uplifted, or I could make the
decision to leave and heal. Healing was the best decision I made, and while reflecting I realized
how much happier I am without the negativity. Life is too short to waste it trying to impress