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McCready, A. (2021), Positive Parenting Solutions. Retrieved from Why do kids talk back?: https://www.
positiveparentingsolutions.com/parenting/why-do-kids-talk-back

Pickhardt, C. E. (2020), Adolescence and the Age of More "Talking Back". Psychology Today.

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