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Leave The Ghosting To Halloween - Building Effective Communication Skills
Leave The Ghosting To Halloween - Building Effective Communication Skills
it would feel confusing as you would lose contact without explanation leaving you
concerned and questioning why.
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I would feel bad but relieved as I dont have to talk to that person anymore.
5. What is empathy?
Effective Communication includes the words that we choose to use in our daily lives.
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An “I” statement, on the other hand, allows a person who feels impacted by the behavior
of another, to express the impact it has on her and, at the same time, leave the
responsibility for modifying the behavior with the person who demonstrated that
particular behavior.
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For example, "I feel ignored when you don't look at me while I'm talking." This is much
easier for someone to hear than "You're ignoring me."
● Remain factual when expressing what you are upset about or do not like.
- When approaching someone about a behavior you’d like to see changed, stick
to factual descriptions of what they’ve done, rather than using negative labels
or words that convey judgments.
- For example, Your friend, who habitually runs late, has shown up 20 minutes
late for a lunch date again.
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- Don’t assume you know what the other person’s motives are, especially if you
think they’re negative. In this situation, don't assume that your friend
deliberately arrived late because they didn't want to come or because they
value their own time more than yours.
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● Avoid judgment and exaggeration.
- Being factual about what you don't like in someone's behavior, without
overdramatizing or judging, is an important start. The same is true for
describing the effects of their behavior. Don’t exaggerate, label or judge; just
describe.
◊ Write an assertive response: Because you were late, we have less time
to eat lunch
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● For each of the 10 things chosen, put it all together by using the feeling words
above to find the right word to best describe how their behavior is making you feel.
● Then complete the highlighted portion to write a statement for each.
● Type this into each of the rows and complete for all.
● When you (insert their behavior), then (insert the results of their behavior), and I
feel (use word that best describes how you feel).
● Use the table provided below to complete/fill in your responses.
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● Ghosting
● Avoiding conflict
● Being defensive
● Overgeneralizing
● Being Right
● Psychoanalyzing or mind-reading
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● Interrupting
● Blaming
● Trying to Win
A calm environment, where most people feel comfortable, and where people are treated
with respect, is therefore less likely to generate a volatile situation, disagreement, or
argument. It is also much harder to become overly angry and negatively aggressive if
everyone around you is behaving calmly and respectfully towards each other and you.
Non-verbal behaviors that can help to defuse anger and potential negative aggression
include:
● Being aware of your own body language and showing a non-threatening, open
stance.
● Keeping good eye contact but ensuring this does not appear confrontational.
● Moving slowly and steadily. Try to keep your physical movements calm.
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● Listening to what the other person has to say and accepting, recognizing, and
emphasizing positive aspects of what is being said—without minimizing the
negatives.
● Showing respect through polite formalities but aiming to work towards familiarity.
● Showing understanding and empathy with the person by reflecting, clarifying, and
summarizing their thoughts and feelings.
● Avoiding any expression of power, for example "You must calm down".
- We know from learning neuroscience in this course that a person can’t just
be told to calm down and then that will actually make the person calm
down. The person that is upset has to administer calming strategies to work
past the feeling and begin to return the body to a calmer state (e.g., walk
away, take a walk, leave the situation, take deep breaths, etc.)
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Directions: Students read #12 and follow directions provided for the activity _______
Student Instructions:
● For this next part, you will partner with someone sitting near you in class (or
someone your classroom teacher has assigned).
● You will each provide a situation where ghosting may have been used. You will
provide an alternative to ghosting using your communication skills. You will take
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2. Next, write a scenario/situation that would require the action chosen above.
I learned that Aryan insulted me behind my back yesterday. I'm never talking to him
again, I feel disrespected and hurt that he said this. Not being able to say it to my face.
Response: Instead of ghosting me, try calmly talking to me in person to find out what's
bothering you. it can usually be talked out and resolved with words and there is no need
to break friendships over small arguments. I apologize for saying that to you being your
back and will work towards being nicer.
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5. Once both partners are finished responding, discuss together the scenarios and
responses.
● Did they identify and use feeling words to describe their emotion(s)? yes
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● Did they provide a clear and direct statement with a reason (stated kindly and
constructively)? yes
● (If applicable) Did they provide closure to the end of the relationship or response
to a situation? yes
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