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7 Ways To Stop Being Nervous Around Women
7 Ways To Stop Being Nervous Around Women
Around Women
Would you like to stop being nervous around women? You’re not
alone.
Every student I’ve taught told me they have approach anxiety. Why
do they suffer? Because they don’t know what to say. They don’t
know what to say largely because they’re nervous.
If it weren’t for nervous men, I’d be out of a job. It’s the #1 reason
most of us find the seduction community. Not because we want to
be big pimps, have harems, and run a pickup company. We just want
to be able to attract women.
I used to be very nervous around beautiful women.
I did date a few girls: the ones who basically threw themselves at
me. But because I was so needy, those relationships rarely lasted
longer than a month. I felt that if I screwed up a relationship, it might
be years before I found another girlfriend. Of course, this
desperation drove the girls away.
That is, until I got liposuction, and found the pickup advice forums.
Anyone can learn success with women. It just means getting off the
Internet, going outside, and exposing yourself to social situations
with more people.
Notice that when your adrenalized heart races, so does your mind.
This is your instinctual fight or flight mechanism. Its purpose is to
keep you "safe." As stated earlier, learning to control these
emotions is key.
Take a breath. Calm your mind, and you calm your body — and vice
versa. Tell your heart to “slow down.” Once your heart has relaxed
its pace, then you can focus on the girl and your interaction with her.
Take a moment to breathe... and realize you are definitely not going
to die if you talk to her.
A good coach will have a lot of experience working with clients who
have approach anxiety and racing internal ego-chatter, who don’t
know what to say to girls, and more. Sure, they’re not cheap, but
they’ll be more effective than a psychologist; rather than
talking about your past, a coach will help you to take action
now, in the present.
Take classes that will challenge you socially and force you to
confront your fears.
There are also college classes, co-ed sports, drinking clubs, etc.
There are many things you can do that will, at least, get you out
of your house and interacting with people. The shared
experiences will make it easier to meet someone get to know them.
Conclusion
Personally, learning cold approach changed my life, from a shy,
man-boobed weakling, to an international dating coach. With a lot
of focus, work ethic, and belief, you could do the same. You may not
want to be a world-traveling dating coach, but at the very least, you
could learn to stop being nervous around beautiful women.
Tony