3 Flavors of Sexy: Brooding,

Smooth, and Talkative Vibes

By Chase Amante

In my travels, I've been fortunate to have met a number of different

men with different personalities who've all found success with
women their own unique ways. One of the patterns I've picked up on
has been that each of these men's "vibes", if you will, fall into one of
three rough categories:

Brooding / sad
Smooth / charming
Talkative / dynamic

No one of these vibes (or airs, or auras, or whatever term you like) is
better than another, though each one appeals to different subsets
of women. Some are more popular at different times of life - most of
the teen male heartthrobs you'll see in books and movies are
brooding, for instance, while the majority of mature (30+) male sex
symbols hew more closely to the "smooth" way of doing things -
but each can be used successfully at any point in a guy's life; there
are plenty of talkative young guys who clean up with women, and
I've seen my fair share of brooding older guys who do well with the
vibe despite their lack of youth.

This article is broken down into three major sections: one on each of
the 3 flavors of vibe. So read on, and find out which kind of sexual
vibe is best suited to you - and, how you can learn to adapt each of
these vibes for your own use, where needed.
First, let's talk about the brooding vibe:

The brooding man is a mouth-watering mix of Byronic flaws and

vulnerabilities to women; his weary nature hints at a tortured soul,
making the opposite sex wonder what causes his heart to be so
black and his face so gloomy and worn, while also hinting at that
ever-salivating prospect for so many girls: the chance to SAVE a
man.

Because, just as many men fall victim to being white knights dead-
set on saving the tragic damsels in distress they meet, so too do
many women fall prey to the temptations of the tragic hero who is
himself in need of rescuing.

Of course, like any of these vibes, you've got to have the

fundamentals to back it all up - just being sad, without also being
a strong and sexually desirable man, doesn't get you very far at all.
So, don't think you can go mope around without also being sexy and
get a lot of women screaming for you like your name was Edward
Cullen.

The Brooding Vibe: Pros and Cons

I brooded a lot when I was in high school and college, and high
school and college are probably the two biggest times in a man's life
for brooding. That's because these environments are the
environments brooding works best in: brooding is a social circle
vibe.

Why's that? Mainly because brooders don't go around approaching

women all that much. If you're brooding over life's callous
capriciousness, you're not going to also be chasing down women,
and if you do, and you aren't perfect in your execution of it, it's
going to come across incredibly incongruent. You're not the
talkative type; you're not even the flirty type... so how on Earth are
you going to open, for Pete's sake?

You're not. The brooder doesn't rely on opening himself... he waits

for the women he wants to come and open him.

Thus, our pros of brooding:

1. You encourage women to do the work. Approach

anxiety isn't even something a brooding guy has to worry
about; his women come to him. A brooding man is a lot more
likely to get approached by women because he seems
vulnerable (a lot less likely to reject them or make them feel bad
for approaching), and also because they can tell he's never
going to approach them himself in a million years - they've got
to do it, or it isn't going to get done.

2. You inspire chasing behavior more quickly than

any other vibe. The women who are partial to brooding men
chase them harder, longer, and more feverishly than any other
women chase any other vibe. Just look at the teenaged to
middle-aged female fans of whomever the latest brooding
heartthrob is, whether that's an actor, boy band singer, or
fictional character wearing the "most steamy, sexy, tragic,
brooding guy" mantle, it doesn't matter - women do backflips
for sexy, brooding men.

3. You screen out uninterested women. If a girl's on the

fence, you won't even have to worry about her - you'll probably
never or almost never interact with her. Thus, any ambiguity
about dating, any wasting of your time on uninterested women,
and any ending up friend zoned by girls you chased after who
just weren't feeling it usually end up not being problems you
need spend much effort dealing with.

... and, our cons of brooding:

1. Approaching (and control) is mostly out. Outside of

 some very strategic slow opening and indirect game, it's
pretty hard for a brooder to walk up to and initiate with women.
Street game is out; it looks totally incongruent for a sad man to
approach women, and it feels weird to them and nets bad
reactions, too. And in parties, bars, and clubs, you'll mostly be
sitting around looking glum, hoping some girl walks up - not
going crazy on the dance floor or strutting around opening any
girl who looks interesting or throws approach invitations your
way.

2. Outside of social circle, you're adrift. Women rarely

approach men outside of social circle; they usually need time to
get comfortable with a man and decide that 1.) they want to
approach him, and 2.) he's simply not going to approach them
on his own, first, before they even consider being the initiators.
And even if you can find a way to open, when you're coming in
low energy, and the girl doesn't otherwise already know you
and like you, much of the time this is just too much of a downer
for her, and she'll want to get out of there. Which means if you
aren't spending most or all of your time in social circles
surrounded by pretty girls, you're going to have pretty slim
pickings so long as you stick with this vibe.

3. The kinds of women you meet is limited. Want to date

a soft, conservative, inexperienced girl? Well, even if she's
absolutely enamored with you, she'll never approach you in a
million years, and even if you finagle your way into a
conversation with you, she's not going to take any initiative -
that's entirely on you. Most of the women you'll meet most of
the time are going to be of the upbeat, talkative, dynamic
variety - which may be fine so long as that's what you want, but
if you decide you want some variety, you're probably going to
 have a long wait to find it.

You can boil up the pros and cons of brooding by noting that the
brooding man gets women going nuts for him and chasing him
down hard... in the right environments, and with the right kinds of
women. But take him out of those environments, and put him in
more anonymous places where he's less likely to run into the same
women again and again, and he quickly ends up a fish out of water.

How to be Brooding and Sexy

Being the brooder is all about tapping your inner Byron... the
brooder is a tortured soul, carrying the weight of the world on his
shoulders. But the sexiest brooding men are not soft, harmless, and
sensitive... rather, they are tormented, and dangerous - or so they
think, and so they'll tell you.

The sexy brooding man broods not because he is inept, but

because his power is too great, and he wields it too chaotically -
he is more bull in china shop than mouse in one.

The sexy man who broods is:

1. A danger to himself and others. "Stay away from me,"

he tells interested women, "I'll only hurt you." And then, they
swoon. The brooding man is electrifying to women not only
because he is dangerous, but because he is aware enough of
how dangerous he is, and doesn't try to apologize for it or cover
it up - instead, he pushes women away, constructing barriers
that only make them want to give chase all the more.

2. Often going to say "no" the first time he's asked.

When people ask him to do things he doesn't usually do, he
usually says "no" - at least, the first time; or at least until he's
 had a while to think about it. Why? Because he's too busy
brooding! Secretly, the brooding man sometimes hopes these
others will persist; and, when they do, and they succeed, they
enjoy the feeling of having achieved something special -
they've gotten this individual, normally so difficult to get, to join
them for once. If they don't persist, sometimes he's just got to
go back to them later and say, "You know what? I thought about
it - let's do it."

3. In possession of certain "secret" skills. Could be

math (Will in Good Will Hunting); could be writing (Jamal in
Finding Forrester); could be music (any number of films about
the brooding fellow who turns out to be an exceptionally
talented musician). Whatever it is, he uses this other creative
outlet as a means for expressing all the emotion he doesn't
usually express with other people.

4. Always of a sad, careful disposition. If there's one

thing the brooding man does not do, it's "let go and have fun".
Living it up is something that other people do, while he looks on
- not him. Yet, he's often very thoughtful, because he also pays
attention to and focuses on the details the others miss.

One of the more difficult things to do is to sleep with lots of women

as a brooding man. The most consistent strategy seems to be
creating a social circle around oneself that brings women
aggressively to one's own doorstep; guys in rock bands - everyone
from world famous rock stars down to backup guitarists in popular
local bands - build their lives this way, bringing them a steady
stream of women while not having to change their dispositions.
Many artists are this way as well - many women go to art galleries
and exhibition openings specifically to meet talented artist types, for
instance. And in college, there's always that one frat brother or that
one friend of the guys throwing the parties who just hangs around
and broods, and certain women just approach him because that's
their "style".

In my opinion, the brooding vibe is the most difficult one to work

with to get women, because it's built on restrictions and depressive
mindsets. So, while you can use it to some effect with some women,
much better, in my opinion, to address any underlying depression
and/or victim mentality issues, and work on conducting the
attitude change that will direct you more naturally to one of the
other, easier-to-work-with styles of vibe.

Next up, the smooth vibe:

The smooth, sexy man is dangerous in all the right ways: with
neither the retreating vulnerability of the brooding man, nor the
disarming verbosity of the talkative man, his laser-sharp eyes and
piercing gaze seem to bore holes right through his quarry, offset
only by his I-know-something-you-don't hint of amusement at
everything life throws his way. While some women are frightened by
his intensity, nearly all of them are excited by his powerful sense of
calm and control, and intrigued to know how he can be so
unshakeable in a shaky, confusing world.

The women who fall hardest for the smooth man are the ones who
inhabit most deeply the worlds of status and prestige; the social
status his demeanor implies catches their attention, and makes
them wonder if they haven't at last found a man to equal them... or
surpass them.

Same caveat as with brooding and talkative, of course: you must

have your fundamentals down, and be sexy, as well as smooth.
Smooth alone doesn't turn women on; it's the mixture of
smoothness and sensuality that sets a girl's bells ringing.

The Smooth Vibe: Pros and Cons

Unlike brooding, smooth is a vibe you don't have to think twice

about approaching with: smooth men naturally approach
strangers. And a big plus over both brooding and talkative is
smooth's broad appeal: smooth sexy is more attractive to a wider
range of women than either brooding sexy or talkative sexy are.

Yet, smooth's biggest drawbacks are a doozy: because the smooth

man is essentially announcing his power, dominance, expertise, and
experience, his interactions with other people must hew to these
domains perfectly. It's much easier to seem incongruent and have
it all come crashing down around you with smooth than it is either of
the other two vibes.

Our pros of smooth:

1. Social pressure gets women qualifying fast. Of all

three vibes, the smooth man wields social pressure the most
expertly and most often, using long pauses, knowing smiles,
and unmoving eyes to elicit approval-seeking responses from
his conversation partners. People feel less comfortable trying
to one up him or harass him (out of fear of being beaten
socially and losing face); and women are more likely to start
qualifying themselves and seeking to impress him early and
 often. He comes across as an authority, and people treat him as
such.

2. Leading is easy. Setting up logistics, getting compliance,

and leading women (and other men) is cake for the smooth
man, largely because people quickly and willingly accept his
leadership and defer to him - he seems to know what he's
doing, and he does things so naturally and confidently that
simply going along with them appears to be the path of least
resistance.

3. Sexual conversation is most comfortable for him.

While all of the three vibes can be quite sexy, sexual
conversation (like chase frames, sexual frames, sex talk, and
sexuality game) comes across natural with the smooth man,
giving him additional paths toward rapidly sexualizing an
interaction. Conversely, brooding men can have a difficult time
using sexual conversation (it seems incongruently forward
about making things sexual, unless the girl's led the
conversation aggressively there herself first), while talkative
men can seem like they're pushing the envelope by launching
into sexual conversation first when their demeanors are already
being seen as quite pushy.

... and our cons of smooth:

1. You must be perfect. One violation of sprezzatura, one

failure to take the Law of Least Effort into consideration, and
suddenly all that smoothness comes tumbling right down -
she's seen through the illusion, and you are not smooth... just a
good imitation of smooth. That's because smooth men don't
[whatever you just did wrong]. And what happens when you
were trying to seem some way, and suddenly don't seem that
 way? You look tryhard - and the bottom falls out from under
whatever attraction you'd built. You must pull the smooth vibe
off all but flawlessly to avoid throwing off those "incongruent"
signals in women's heads, and you get a lot less leeway with
recovering from these than either the brooding or the talkative
man gets.

2. Your angles of approach are limited. While you can

absolutely cold approach with the smooth vibe, a number of
subcategories of cold approach are off-limits: you don't see
James Bond walking up to 20 different women in a nightclub or
a shopping mall, for instance. So, even though cold approach is
"unlocked" for the smooth vibe, you'll have to switch into
talkative if you want to access some of the bonus levels
beneath it without coming across incongruously.

3. You don't get to feel as connected. The brooding man

is all about driving women wild to peel off his layers and find
out more and more about him; the talkative man is going to tell
every girl he's talking to all sorts of things about himself
throughout the course of conversation no matter what. But the
smooth man keeps conversation about himself to the bare
minimum; he hints at little, and actually reveals less. This is
great for attraction; however, it's not so great for your own
emotions of connectedness, which are entirely based on how
well you feel others know you. When you're playing it smooth,
people really just don't get to know you all that well, which
leaves you yourself feeling not all that known (how the other
party feels, of course, is totally dependent on how well she
feels you know her - so, she may feel deeply connected to you,
while you feel only the slightest of connections to her, all
because she knows you know her well, while you know she
 hardly knows you).

An easy way of thinking about the smooth man is as a guy who sits
there, chin up, slight smile playing about his lips, amused at how all
those other people out there run about, scrambling to live their lives,
not knowing what he knows, and occasionally reaching down to
scoop up someone interesting and bring her into his life for a while.
He gets all the benefits of the seeming power and authority and
regalness this confers, but also suffers the drawbacks: he stays
removed emotionally, he's limited in how actively he can pursue
women, and he's attached at the hip to the Law of Least Effort, as
any crack in his frame can make his mountain look like a house of
cards, and send it tumbling down in pieces.

"Smooth" is finesse game at its finest - it gives you overall the

broadest range of possibilities, but requires you to know exactly
what you're doing every step along the way.

How to be Smooth and Sexy

Accessing the smooth part of your persona is about being able to

lay back, smile, and trust that things will work out the way you want
them to work out, because you know how to nudge them with just
enough of a push from your fingertips to make them go the way you
want them to go without it seeming like you're doing anything.

It is all about learning game to the utmost, and executing on

what you know with subtlety and poise.

The sexy man who's smooth is:

1. An experienced seducer. You won't be able to pull off a

smooth vibe completely or convincingly without having
amassed enough experience that you can run an interaction
 from start to finish sans cracks in your frames. Of course, often
this means you've paid your dues by trying to be smooth... and
coming up short, time and again, only gradually getting
smoother and smoother as you see more and do more and
learn how to keep your composure under pressure and deal
with perplexing situations on the fly without breaking a sweat.
The more veteran you are, the easier it is to switch into
smooth... when you want to.

2. Adept at minimizing his effort and maximizing his

results. While the brooding man waits for others to chase
after him much of the time, and the talkative man does the
chasing, the smooth man straddles the line between, of doing
just enough to get people pursuing - he's constantly adding
feathers that tip scales. In doing this, he's able to initiate 95%
of what he wants or needs without having to look like he's
chasing - and then get the objects of his interest to begin to
chase and invest in him right back.

3. Constantly creating and defusing tension. The

smooth man is expert at creating tension at will, and defusing it
equally at will. He uses nonverbals like eye contact and body
posture, paraverbals like pauses in conversation, and his skill as
a conversationalist to do so. He also defuses that tension -
with chase framing, sexual framing, or light banter - but only
when it's too heavy; the rest of the time, he uses the tension he
creates to prompt investment by the other party (to ease that
tension), or to ramp up sexual interest via increased sexual
tension.

4. Always of a collected, amused disposition. Never will

you catch a smooth man brooding; nor will you catch him
excited or amazed. Rather, he is always in a calm, cool, and
 "smirking at the world" state of being - he constantly wears
that "I know something you do not" look about himself. This
makes the people he meets desire his approval, but fear his
rejection - because he implicitly positions himself through his
behavior and persona to be of high rank in the social arena.

The smooth and sexy man has little difficulty sleeping with
women, though he must be extremely mindful of his attainability -
as he is the most removed and least attainable of the three kinds of
sexy. In fact, at the upper levels of smooth, you're likely to have a
number of women who will auto-reject you very quickly if you make
even the slightest of low attainability gestures toward them - mainly
because they are already closely monitoring you for any hint of
rejection.

Smooth takes some work to pull off, and it's virtually impossible to
get right as a novice. But, with time and a bit of elbow grease, it's a
powerful, versatile vibe to have, and one of the most consistent for
landing higher caliber lovers and friends.

Finally, our talkative vibe:

The sexy talkative man is a hell of a good time. He's fun, his energy
is contagious, and people are instantly comfortable around him -
he's a real "let your hair down" kind of guy. Mr. Talkative doesn't sulk
like the brooding man, proclaiming disinterest and depression; nor
does he sit back and watch and judge and smirk and play kingmaker
like the smooth man does. Instead, he's there, right in the middle of
the action, throwing himself in wholeheartedly with reckless
abandon, thousand-megawatt smile on full blast and gobs of happy
conversation and hearty laughs streaming forth from him for all who
care to sample them (and all who don't, as well).

The talkative man's women most often are quiet and submissive
women; although he will also attract crafty women who like both
security and to have some measure of control, and view him as a
strong guy who nevertheless keeps all his cards on the table, so
there's nothing to fear there. He's as well very attractive to women
with low energy personalities (female brooders) who are in need of
an injection of uplifting energeticness and motivation.

As with our other two vibes, it can't be stated enough: you must
also be sexy, and not just talkative. Men who are talkative but not
sexy can come off as funny to laugh at, but otherwise annoying
(think: Adam Sandler or Jim Carrey); meanwhile, men who are
talkative but sexy are an absolute ball (think: Robert Downey, Jr.).

The Talkative Vibe: Pros and Cons

If we were playing a fantasy game, and the brooding man was the
mage, with his "hang back and cast magic spells" approach, and the
smooth man was the rogue, with his "precision-targeted bow
attacks and sneaky stealth abilities", the talkative man would be the
warrior - "just walk up to the bloody thing and hit it."

The talkative man has little patience for finesse; his is the bulldozer
approach: just walk up to a girl and hit her with everything
you've got... she's either going to dig it, or she isn't. This makes
talkative the ideal vibe for mass approaching (which is why you'll
notice most of the advice in the pickup community is focused on
being very talkative), and also what makes it so effective with
quieter or less assertive women.

Conversely, talkative men can quickly talk themselves into corners

with women skilled at controlling the flow of the conversation, and
they can come off as "just another chatty guy" to women who are
themselves talkative and/or experienced with life and are more
interested in connecting (read: the man getting to know them)
than in being wowed and awed (read: the man telling them all about
his own stuff, which may or may not be impressive to them if they've
already traveled somewhat and done some interesting things in
their lives).

Our pros of talkative, then:

1. You talk right past women's insecurities. Particularly

with inexperienced women or women who are in bad moods
or not feeling very social, taking things too slowly at the outset
can mean the girl feels insecure or not interested in the
conversation, and exits (or never gets going, and starts to feel
uncomfortable). The talkative man plows through this and
doesn't leave women time to let these feelings sink in - thus
opening up for himself opportunities with women looking for an
injection of positive energy who might otherwise have been
closed to a less dynamic, rapidly engaging man.

2. Approach styles and angles are unlimited. The

smooth man only has so many ways he can approach without
looking incongruent; and the brooding man often has to wait for
women to approach him. Not so for the talkative man; street
game, day game, walking straight up to a girl in a nightclub and
engaging her, all are fair game. These might not be quite as
high percentage approaches as the ones he'll do more subtly,
but at least he can do them; he doesn't have to forego them
entirely, or wait for the girl to reposition herself somewhere he
can more effortlessly engage her.

3. You can make mistakes and recover. Because the

talkative man is doing so much and saying so much, he also
gets the most leeway of any of our three vibes - do something
moderately incongruent, and it's okay, because you can hop
 right back on the talkative train and wipe the memory of that
mistake away. Conversation got awkward for a moment? No
problem - just make it good again. You touched her and she
rebuffed you? It's fine - just laugh about it and crack a joke,
then move on with the conversation and try again later.
Talkative rolls with the punches more easily than the other two
vibes, and doesn't have smooth's need for perfect execution of
all actions in the least.

... and our cons of talkative:

1. You'll meet lots of resistance. Unlike brooding, in which

more or less the only women talking to you are women who are
already chasing after you, and unlike smooth, in which you use
intrigue, baiting, and social pressure to inspire chasing
behavior, talkative men are doing the chasing themselves,
which puts women in a different mental state; rather than being
the ones who are pursuing, they are the judges, leaning back
and deciding if they are sufficiently satisfied with what you
have on offer to move to the next step. That means that many
of your efforts to move girls, change venues, invite women
home, and otherwise escalate things will be met with heavy
testing prior to a woman "deciding" for you (e.g., "Okay - I'm
sleeping with this guy tonight") - which may not even happen
at all until you're already getting intimate.

2. Not every girl is excited or impressed. The talkative

vibe is based around being exciting, engaging, and/or
impressive... only, not every girl is excited, engaged, and/or
impressed by this. Women who think of themselves as more
impressive will tend to maintain haughty airs around a talkative
man, while women who are "free spirits" themselves are
generally more looking for men they can free their spirits
 around, rather than men who are free spirits themselves,
around whom their spirits would be caged... there's only so
much space between two people, and when both of those
people have a lot to put out there, they're headed for conflict.

3. It's difficult to screen. Arguably the biggest difficulty of

the talkative vibe, to my mind, is the difficulty of screening out
women who are only socially interested in you, not sexually
interested. While the mantra of old school pickup was "any
woman can be won", what ends up happening with too much
over-the-top mass approaching is that you can waste a lot of
time with women who are excited to talk to you because you
bring so much energy... only, they have zero sexual or
romantic intent with you, and when you try to make things
happen with them later on, you run into a brick wall. As always
here, the trick is to be constantly moving things forward - you'll
screen out the uninterested women pretty quickly. However, as
the talkative man, you will continue to meet more women only
interested in you for the fun you provide, and totally
uninterested in anything else you might provide - it's something
you just can't get away from.

In essence, the talkative man is a bundle of energy, enthusiasm, and

optimism who can steamroll many women into adoring him with his
bullish charm. Particularly with quieter women, or women who
"aren't in the mood", this can be an invaluable asset, as it allows you
to quickly bypass early awkward feelings and get right to the meat
of the interaction - good feelings, enjoyment, and escalating the
vibe. On the downside, some women view the relatively
uncomplicated talkative man as "one dimensional", uninteresting,
unchallenging, or unimpressive; women who are on the fence will
resist him much more and he faces greater difficulty getting them to
chase; and it can be a rough time trying to figure out which girls love
him because they want to go to bed with him, and which girls love
him because he's just so much FUN and would make a fantastic fun
friend.

Talkative is the big gun with a big area of effect but less laser-
targeted precision; it's most effective when dealing with quantity
(lots of approaches; lots of different girls) and where subtlety is
most likely to be missed (quieter / less experienced / less social
women).

How to be Talkative and Sexy

Tapping talkative means taking your sex energy and redirecting it

strongly outward. It's a mistake to think you don't need to be
focused with a talkative vibe; you still need the piercing sexuality of
the smooth, sexy man and the brooding, sexy man too. You just
need to be good at maintaining that focused sexuality as you switch
from talking to one person to another, and from talking about one
topic to another, and not allow it to drown in all your enthusiasm.

When you hear most people talk about being "in state", they're
talking about talkative state; they're talking about being able to go
out, speak a mile a minute, flow like crazy, and emit wave after wave
of overwhelming positivity. For people who aren't naturally talkative
types, this can be difficult to achieve; but in this case, it's all about
building up enough social momentum that talkative is a natural thing
to be.

The sexy man who's talkative is:

1. Always in a sociable mood. He loves talking; he's excited

about talking! He's always got some new thing to share that he
can't wait to tell you about. Whenever he reads or hears
something, the first thing he thinks is, "Wow, I've GOT to tell
 people about THIS!" The focus of the talkative man is on
people, rather than things - he's eager to communicate, to
connect, and to bond, and he's often very eager to impress. He
lives for other people, and is happiest when he's right smack in
the middle of a good conversation, telling a story.

2. Not afraid to direct the conversation. Because he's so

excited about talking, some people may mistake his eagerness
to connect for an eagerness to connect with anybody. He
knows what he wants and he's comfortable being in charge of
the conversation, though; if someone butts into a conversation
he's running, he'll very quickly and naturally tell him, "Hey,
that's awesome; we're talking here, but I'll check in with you in a
few minutes," and then cut the person back out again, to
resume (or not) later on when it's convenient for him.

3. Adept at keeping things energetic. Even if you tell him

the saddest, most tragic sob story in the world, he's going to
(loudly and dramatically) commiserate for a moment ("Damn!
That's a sad story, man. ... that is sad"), and then he's going to
transition from the unenergetic tragic vibe to an energetic one -
like anger ("But you know what? You know why that keeps
happening? It's because of [some reason]! They're ALWAYS
trying to [whatever it is]!!!") or inspiration ("But you know what?
You came out on the other side of it a whole lot stronger, didn't
you? You hung in there, took those licks, and came out saying,
'Look at me, world - I can take whatever you can dish out'"). He
will never allow anyone in conversation with him keep things on
a low energy vibe for long - he's too impatient to get back to
the good vibes - and if they try to stick to some lengthy, low
energy story, he'll interrupt them to make his energetic point
and get things moving again that much sooner.
 4. Has a twinkle in his eye, a sly grin, and a propensity
to tease. One of the major differentiators between a talkative
man who isn't sexy and a talkative man who is is the impishness
and propensity to tease of the sexy talkative man. He enjoys
teasing girls with all manner of nudge-you-in-the-ribs smile-
and-wink type humor, of the "But you and I both know that's
true - [nudge] - huh? [smile] Don't we know it's true? [knowing
smile]" variety. His style of humor isn't the brooding man's
tragic comedy, nor is it the smooth man's under the radar
subtlety; instead, it's a bludgeon-you-over-the-head style that
makes no apologies for stating directly what it means, and
smiles and winks with you and assumes you're every bit along
for the ride.

Like smooth and sexy, the talkative and sexy man also doesn't
have much difficulty sleeping with women, although the women
he sleeps with and the women the smooth man sleeps with tend to
be different sorts of women: he gets the quieter girls who are more
willing to accept overt frame control, while the smooth man gets
the more dynamic girls who are more titillated by a man who can
control the frame without telling them he's controlling it (meanwhile,
the brooding man gets the women who want to feel like they're in
control of the frame, calling the shots and doing the mate selection
and chasing and escalation). However, he must be mindful that he is
constantly trying to move things forward with women, because he
has no other defense against women who are taking up his time
only because they enjoy bantering with him, dancing with him, or
basking in his energy.

Talkative is the natural vibe for most men starting off with
women to slip into, and it's the one that unlocks the widest
possible array of approach styles and opportunities (that is, all
of them, just about). What most newer guys get wrong, though, is
forgetting to incorporate that crucial element of sexiness into their
talkative styles - it's what's needed to move the talkative man from
being an enjoyable conversation partner into a sexually arousing
one.

The vibe you choose to inhabit most of the time is going to be

whichever one best fits your natural personality at the moment. Will
you be:

The sexy, brooding man (the heartthrob - Brad Pitt)?

The sexy, smooth man (the seducer - George Clooney)?
The sexy, talkative man (the salesman - Robert Downey, Jr.)?

You do also need some ability to switch vibes based on the

context you're meeting women in, if you want the greatest range
of approaches and women to remain open to you, similar to what we
recommend with Social Styles. For instance:

If you're in a very low energy mood in a social circle

environment with a number of high energy women, your best
bet can be putting on the brooding vibe and letting those
women come to you

If you're in a laid-back lounge with well-dressed, aloof women

who are posing for social status, your best bet is adopting the
 smooth vibe and creating the impression you are higher status
than they are so that they chase and pursue you once you're in
conversation with them

If you're going to be doing some street game, with busy,

hurried women who are not in a social mood to meet new
strangers whatsoever, your best bet is to adopt a talkative vibe
and plow your way through the first few minutes of awkward
conversation into something good

You'll find that typically, most men's default means of meeting new
women correspond with their preferred vibes - my very talkative
friends are all huge fans of day game or big loud nightclubs, while
my smooth friends prefer lounges and dive bars, and my brooding
friends stick closely to their social circles, where women give them
chase.

But I'd advise you to cultivate all three slices of the pie for your own
self, so that you might switch from one into the other or the third
whenever it's called for. Many circumstances can accommodate any
vibe - once you're in a conversation with a girl already, for instance,
you can be brooding, smooth, or talkative, and you'll succeed based
on how well that vibe complements the girl's own vibe, though you
can sometimes succeed with a not-that-complementary vibe if your
fundamentals are sufficiently solid.

Yet, for granting yourself the broadest set of options - I'd say, don't
ignore any of these... they're all lots of fun.

Yours,
Chase Amante
 About the Author: Chase Amante

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