PSY 100

The Individual and Society

Friendship and Love Relationships
 Objectives
• Upon completion of this lesson, you will be able to:
– Describe the roles of familiarity, similarity, physical
attractiveness, and personality traits in attraction
– Discuss the benefits of friendship
– Describe gender differences in friendship
– Identify the distinguishing characteristics of romantic love,
affectionate love, and consummate love .
– Describe gender differences in love relationships
– Discuss factors associated with anger, jealousy,
dependency and domestic violence in relationships
– Identify circumstances that are typically associated with
loneliness
 Overview
• Relationships
– Extremely positive
– Conflicted
– Having no relationships
• Loneliness
– Attraction
– Friendship
– Love
– The dark side of relationships
 Forming Relationships: Attraction
• Familiarity and Similarity
– Necessary for close relationship
– Friends and lovers are like us
– Consensual validation
• Physical Attractiveness
– Female
– Male
– Standards change
– Matching hypothesis
 Friendship
• Overview
– Intimacy
– Trust
– Acceptance
– Understanding
• Benefits of Friendships
– Reduce loneliness
– Raise self-esteem
– Emotional support
• Gender and Friendship
– Between women
– Between males
– Cross-gender
 Love
• What is Love?
– Liking
– Being close
– Dependency
– Selfless orientation
– Absorption
– Exclusiveness
• Types of Love
– Romantic (passionate)
– Affectionate (companionate)
– Consummate
 Love
• Attachment
– Attachment Styles
• Secure attachment
• Avoidant attachment
• Ambivalent attachment
– Links between attachment in childhood and close
relationships in adulthood
 Love
• Gender and Love
– Men – passion
– Women – friendship
– Men and women – affection
– Gender differences in communicating
• Women more expressive
– Detecting deficiencies
• Falling Out of Love
– Someone who betrays your trust
– Being in love when the love is not returned
 The Dark Side of Close Relationships
• Anger
– Powerful emotion
– Destructive
– Managing anger
• Jealousy
– Fear of losing someone
– What causes jealousy
– Managing jealousy
• Spouse and Partner Abuse
– Growing knowledge of domestic abuse
– Three-phase cycle of domestic violence
 The Dark Side of Close Relationships
• Dependence
– Destructive element
– Perceived as a burden
• Loneliness
– Desire for company
– Linked to health problems
– Life’s transitions
– Technology
 Summary
• Familiarity and similarity
• Physical attractiveness
• Friendships
• What is love?
• Types of love
• Attachment styles
• Anger
• Jealousy
• Spousal abuse
• Dependence
• Loneliness