Building a Strong Marriage and Family

(Relationship and Ethics in the Ministry Chapter 3)

Introduction: Marahil ang isa sa pinakamahalagang responsibilidad ng
mga ministro ay ang pagtatayo doon ng tahanan nang maayos at may
sadyang pangangalaga. Ang ilang mga ministro ay may posibilidad na
ilagay ang pagtatayo ng simbahan sa tuktok ng kanilang listahan at
pamahalaan ang pagtatayo ng tahanan sa anumang natitirang oras at
lakas na maaaring mayroon sila. Ito ay isang mapanganib na
pamumuhay na maaaring magbigay sa kalaban ng isang foothold. Kung
ang kanyang bahay ay hindi malakas, ang ministro ay hindi magiging
kasing epektibo sa pagtatayo ng simbahan.
Ang Unang Timoteo 3 ay nagbibigay ng pangkalahatang ideya ng mga
inaasahan ng mga pinuno sa simbahan na nagpapakita kung gaano
kahalaga ang prinsipyong ito. Para sa kadahilanang ito, nais kong
tingnan ang ilang mga natutunang aral sa pagbuo ng isang kasal na
makakaligtas sa mga bagyo. Ang mga tagubilin para sa kung ano ang
itinalagang kasal at kung paano ito gagana ay matatagpuan sa madalas
na binabanggit na sipi ng kasal sa Efeso 5:21-33. Suriin ang talatang
iyon. Tandaan, ang konteksto nito ay isang aral kung paano gumagana
ang simbahan, ipinakita ni Paul ang kasal bilang isang larawan ng
relasyon ng Diyos sa simbahan ng Ha. Binibigyang-diin nito ang
kahalagahan ng prinsipyo ng Kawikaan 24:3-4 na pag-aaralan natin sa
kabanatang ito. Ang pagtatayo ng iyong bahay ay parang pagtatayo ng
isang maliit na bahagi ng simbahan. Kapag nakuha mo ito nang tama sa
bahay, mas magiging handa kang gawin ito nang tama sa mas malaking
konteksto.
Lesson 3.1 Secrets for Building a Strong Marriage
-“By Wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is
established through knowledge it’s rooms are filled with rare and
beautiful treasures”(Proverbs 24:3-4).Knowledge is awareness of what
to do. Understanding is knowing how to do it. Wisdom is knowing when
to do it.
-The Partners in a good marriage have mastered how to do what and
what to do when.
Objectives
3.1.1 Identify a significant barrier to Close Relationship
Knowing What to do
-Do you know the enemy of your relationship? It is YOU! Selfishness is
the biggest barrier to intimacy. The first and hardest step is getting
beyond your own selfish interests, desires and expectations and moving
toward knowing and unlocking the mysteries of your spouse
-Discovering my partner’s history, dreams and goals for the future is an
exciting journey —it takes time and genuine effort.
Listening
-is not thinking of what you will say when the other person stops
talking. Give your spouse your full attention. (Alam ng matalinong kung
Siya ay pinakikinggan o hindi)
3.1.2 Describe ways of showing support for your partner
Showing Support
-Married couples need to nurture each other with touch, tenderness,
kind of words, mutual respect and sensitivity.
Lesson 3.2 Knowing and Doing
-Knowledge is your response, your obedient response, to building a
relationship. Gaining knowledge is obedience.
Objectives
3.2.1 Explain the Difference between knowledge and understanding
Knowing How to do it
-Knowledge is awareness that the enemy of love is selfishness while
understanding is dealing with the selfishness factor. Understanding is
the place for grace.
3.2.2 Define wisdom
Knowing when to do it
-Wisdom is taking knowledge and understanding and applying them
effectively. It is responding through a godly filter rather than with a
selfish or worldly filter Wisdom means knowing that justice can never
be satisfied. Thus, wisdom is redeeming!
3.2.3 Explain the meaning of the Hebrew word hesed
Covenant Love
-Hesed is covenant love par excellence, taken to the highest level of
devotion; it is the love that keeps and fills the covenant between
partners.(Lamentations 3:22-23)
-Hesed is not just love, but love plus loyalty. It is not just loyalty, but
loyalty plus love. Hesed goes beyond feelings to commitment.
Lesson 3.3 Marriage and Prayer
Objectives
3.3.1 Discuss how prayer can be affected by inequality in a Marriage
Hindered Prayer
-1 Peter 3:7. “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live
with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and
as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder
your prayers.”(it means that if you are treating your partner Inequality
things get ruin and you will lost your foundation, your prayers. If you
don’t treat your partner with respect it will hinder your prayers)
-First, the stronger of the two was making life difficult for the weaker.
Second, by spending his energy on harassing his brother, he had missed
the opportunity to engage in conversation with his dad. It is not difficult
to see the parallels in a marriage relationship.(Like in the relationship,
when we are not hearing the conversation to our partner, it can lead to
a miscommunication and your partners might be in a difficult situation,
became weaker and lead to inequality that really hinders our prayers)
3.3.2 Explain How intercession I an integral part of a Christlike
Marriage
Intercession
Ephesians 5:25-27 instructs: Husbands, go all out in your love for your
wives, exactly as Christ did for the church-a love marked by giving, not
getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke beauty.
Everything He does and says is designed to bring the best out of her,
dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is
how husbands ought to love their wives, They’re really doing
themselves a favor-since they are already one in marriage.( Christ
centered relationship to have a healthy and strong relationship)
3.4.1 Explain the effect f public criticism on a Child
Children and Ministry
-Once you have experienced parenthood and the melancholy that your
kids have passed your fingers, there comes an unexplainable, eerie
feeling that makes you wish for time back again, both to do and undo a
few things. But the reality is that what is gone is gone. Done. You
cannot get it back.
Words
Words can Heal or Hurt
-Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train a child in the way he should go, and when
he is old he will not turn from it.” Scripture also instructs parents not to
over- discipline their children (Ephesians 6:4).Children should know the
boundaries and know what the consequences are for breaking the
rules. A child will rise like an eagle on the positive air currents you
provide with your healing words.
3.4.2 Discuss the needs of Children
Complete Attention is necessary
-Focus on the important things. Your children need your attention.
(Make time to your Children, have bonding with them and have a deep
Parents and sons/daughters relationship)
Patience is Better Than Haste
-I have learned the joys of a meaningful relationship that come from
treating my child as a person who has feelings. I have learned that if we
want to be loved, respected, and cherished as we grow older, then we
must love, respect, and cherish our children as they grow older.
Children’s Needs Differ from Their Parents’
-The bonding of soul-to-soul and heart-to-heart happens at unexpected
moments. Do not be in a hurry; do not scuttle times when memories
are being made.
3.4.3 Explain ways a parent can protect a Child
Life is not as Simple as it looks for a Child
-Build habits and consistent patterns into their days to help in the
wholesome management of their lives(We must help them in their daily
lives because they are not always young children who will always
treated them like a baby, be a good parents, discipline them)
-2 Timothy 1:5, Deuteronomy 6:1-2
3.4.4 Indicate why humility is a good foundation for parenting
Maintain Balance in Crisis
-Humility is perhaps the most recognizable qualify that connects all
parents into one common family.
-“Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the
kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these” (Matthew 19:14). What
does it take to please God and make it to heaven? Take a good look at
your child, the right look, and ask yourself that question again.
-That is why the psalmist said, “Except the Lord builds the house, its
builders labor in vain” (Psalm 127:1).
-Thus, your life ought to demonstrate the reality and day to day
relevance of Christian Faith so that your Children desire it.