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She’s not that kind of girl? Well, here’s a pro tip: all girls are that kind
of girl. Those who say first date sex shouldn’t happen usually have
ulterior motives.
I’m always surprised when men believe sex on the first date is
unlikely, unnecessary, impossible, or even wrong.
You see, when you spend many years with an enlightened view of
women (like I and the contributors on Girls Chase have), it becomes
your norm. Old and misguided beliefs you lost years ago or never
had seem strange and foreign.
Sometimes men say they “want to take it slow” with a girl because
they want something serious, or they might mention that she’s
being a slut because she has sex on the first date. They might even
say she’s a whore despite not sleeping with him on the first date.
When I see this, I know that they are entangled in the Madonna-
Whore complex, which is where this false belief originates. It’s the
root of wrong views about quick sex.
However, when a woman says it, she has everything to gain and little
to lose.
In the sense of good and bad, it has very little to do with morality
and instead is about the morality of status-gaining and control, and
mate-screening.
Women rightly want what is best for them. They want the best man
they can get. If we start with this simple premise, everything about
the idea of “not having sex on the first date” becomes translucent.
We see an innocent idea as something much more.
When you see this idea for what it is, you will wake up to a new view
of women.
It is a liberating view.
You will walk around the world as a hunter, knowing that you can
screw any girl, and I mean any girl on the first date.
I don’t care if she’s a Queen or just thinks she is one on Instagram,
you can slay her on the first date.
You, my good sir, might even have some white knight mentality
still in your mind.
You see, deep down, a white knight believes that quick sex is
disrespectful.
This is the most common interpretation of sex on the first date by all
those against it — that the guy only wants sex. You know, you can
want sex AND romance. They’re not mutually exclusive. Hell, I don’t
even really know a girl until I’ve slept with her a few times.
And what if the woman DOES want to be an object of lust? She'll be
disappointed if you don't try.
Women clearly enjoy being desired by the men they love, and men
they barely know. Women want to feel sexy. To deny this means you
don’t know much about women, are judgmental (and usually
jealous) of men, and are the shallow sucker in the group.
You can’t ride in on a shining horse if you don’t have a horse. If your
moral foundation is empty, then you need to save yourself first
before saving her.
Deep down, you have a problem with first date sex, because you still
believe that only whores have quick sex and that a potential
wife/mother-of-your-children takes it slow.
It’s not so much how quickly a woman has sex, but how many
partners she's had and whether she has cheated before. Also, did
her sex turn into a relationship or does she have a history of casual
screws?
Sure, if your girlfriend had six boyfriends in the past three years and
banged them all on the first date, there’s a problem. And it IS a good
sign if her OTHER boyfriends took a long time to get her.
You should ALWAYS want to sleep with her ASAP. Her making you
wait might be a smokescreen. Maybe she makes you wait, but she
didn’t make JOHNNY wait back in college or HANK from Tinder last
month. You gain nothing and lose everything by waiting.
Obviously, you can’t and won’t sleep with EVERY girl on the first
date, but it’s ideal if you do. It makes you sexy, dominant, and cool
for having achieved it, ESPECIALLY if she’s normally prudish and has
made other boyfriends and lovers wait.
You are the exception, not the rule (even if you are the rule!). And
being the exception makes your relationship much more passionate
and healthy. She will date or marry and sire the children of a strong,
dominant man.
I’ve seen some guys gripe that “This quality of girl can be banged
on the first date,” but a girl like “THAT GIRL,” nah, that’s too hard.
They don’t even have to say it. They think it.
Gorgeous, high class, doesn't dress like a hooker? She'll have sex on
the first date, too. With the right guy, that is.
And so they take it slower with her. Maybe they even screw her
eventually. But they knew instinctually they were not up to the task
and defeated themselves before they even started.
In my experience, if you don’t bang her on the first date, you did
something wrong. I hear some guys tell me, “You know, man, I think
she just needs one or two more dates.” This is not wrong.
Sometimes you don’t perform as well as you could have. You had a
rough start and need to fix your seduction a bit. You were too
arrogant. Too nice. Whatever.
You’re not going to bang every girl on the first date, but always
remember, it was probably your inability to pull it off.
Didn’t have enough time? Should have scheduled the date better.
Weren’t confident she was 100% down? Never know, you didn’t try.
I have a lot of friends who insist it’s not so important to screw a girl
quickly and instead have more patience. I tell them they’re not
respecting the art. And usually, when they’re SO confident they’re
going to bang a girl they went on one date with before, I smile. What
makes me smile more is when they tell me about some hint she
gave, but they blew it off as not a big deal.
“Oh, I’m 100% going to screw her, no doubt.”
I ask a few weeks later, “Hey, man, you ever bang the ‘ol girl?”
“Uhh, no….”
Uh-huh.
They will hopefully see one day that there are patterns with lust and
love.
"Oh, you wanna ask her out? She's a good girl. You need to go
reeeeeal slow with her."
Men love to do this especially when they know they don’t have a
chance; they don’t want you to have a chance, either. If they
can’t have her, they’ll stop as many other men from having her as
they can.
White knights do this, and likely a lot of men reading this article.
Any guy who says this, I will tell you what to do. Turn to him, look
him in the eyes, smile, and say, “Every girl is that kind of girl.”
So long as they are young and beautiful, men will crave them. Sure,
they can heighten their appeal with status, fashion, and other tools,
but their main strategy in the mating market is defense.
And the worst smear that a woman can have in the sexual market is
that of a thot. A whore. A slut.
A woman sleeping with a man on the first date doesn’t make her a
whore. But to some men, it does. Every man has a different line
between a slut and a good girl, and girls have a simple response to
this.
I’ve known some prolific peddlers of pussy — girls who have slept
with over a hundred men. And even they would scoff at being
thought of as a slut. Sure, there are moments of truth. Women are
very honest after they get some good dick.
No matter how much of a slut a girl is or isn’t, they all say the
same thing: “I’m not that kind of girl.” And that’s okay. She’s
just playing her role in the sexual game. I’d do the same if I were
a woman.
Women use blanket moralities like “No sex on the first date” or “I’m
going to make him wait” as screening tools. They say it and see
whether he’ll believe her or see the truth.
She’ll either indirectly or directly say she doesn’t have sex on the
first date. Girls don’t randomly say “I. Do. Not. Screw. On. The. First.
Date.” They communicate the idea and morality in many different
ways.
It might change in time, but for now, it’s a wall between you and her
pussy.
You’re kissing a girl, but as you try to steal another base, she stops
your hand and tells you, “Woah, a little quick.” But if she keeps
kissing you and then says, “I think you’re sexy, and I want to screw
you, I just don’t do this a lot. And not on the first date.” Well, there’s
room for negotiation there.
If her body language is open and she’s still inviting you with her
vibe, expressions, and continues to enjoy your presence, then it’s
probably just a small bump. You just need to persist.
If there's a vibe, push forward. Even if she ultimately says no, she'll
respect you for trying. If you don't try, she might think you don't
desire her, and auto-reject you. You have nothing to lose and
everything to gain by going for sex on the first date.
In the end, it’s still just a useful morality that can be broken at
any time if the “right guy” comes along. Even if she firmly
believes she’ll never have sex on the first date, it can happen.
She may even be telling the truth. But if in conversation about sex,
society, or any gossip about sex, she claims she is chaste, slow,
romantic, etc., it could also be a value pump, in addition to it being a
test or rejection.
She’s using “I don’t have sex on the first date” or “No sex until we’re
in love” or “No sex until he’s my boyfriend” to make her look harder
to get in general. It’s especially true if she’s around many people.
This makes her more exclusive and thus more valuable on the
sexual market.
She’s not like other girls. And now you know the truth behind that.
Don't call her out in public, though!
Women always use the morality of “No sex on the first date” as a
defensive tool to protect their status, boost their status, or screen
out the men from the boys.
All women have within them both a whore and a virgin mother.
Some women express the former more than the latter, but do not be
deceived. They all love sex. Rough sex. Dirty sexy. With hot men.
And they don’t mind having it on the first date if you’re the right guy.
Love,
Hector