15:14 Peer

a) Describe how you were brought up by your guardian/parents.

9:52 she stated that “ parents ko kasi ay mixed of a traditional and modern”

Walang reward system sa amin sa family, although nag-start ako maging achiever
walang reward system, yung concept ng parents ko nun, you're doing something, for the glory
of the lord and for your growth. Walang reward system but they made sure na maprioritize
talaga yung mga needs. Merong mental process na, you need to seperate your wants from your
needs, kaya parang, nung lumalaki ako narealize ko na, ay ito malaga ito, ito hindi to
mahalaga.

When it comes naman sa support, yung mom ko lagi ako pinapasali sa mga contest,
madami akong sinalihan na contest nung bata ako, kasi nga hindi sila naniniwala na matalino
ako pero talented ako, kasi nasayaw ako, nakanta ako, kahit hindi naman ako magaling
kumanta, supportive sila sa mga pinag gagagawa ko

Sa decision making, parang bata pa lamang ako, tinatanong na ako kung ano yung
gusto ko maging. Ang gusto ko talaga, maging doctor, tas during that time sinasabi sa akin ng
parents ko na pinag-iipunan na daw nila yung pagdodoctor ko, kasi mahal daw yun. Tapos
dumating naman yung highschool, ay gusto ko naman maging abogado, so ayun very
supportive sila.

Pag may mali naman ako ng desisyon, hindi sila yung nagmumura na “ayan ka, ito ka,
ganito ka”, walang ganon, pinaprocess talaga nila na – “you shouldnt do this, you shouldnt do
that”. Madaldal talaga ako ever since, yung parents ko madaming friends, tas ako lagi akong
nakikinig, hindi ako pinapagalitan ng parents ko, di ko rin naranasan na mapahiya sa harap na
“hindi ka kasali dito”, walang ganon. Ang ginagawa sa akin ng parents ko, inuutusan ako
papunta sa kusina para kumuha ng something pero kakausapin na talaga ako na, “anak bawal
yung ganon 12 years old ka pa lamang hindi ka pa pwede maki alam sa mga ganong usapan”.
Ganon yung parents ko.

Kahit ngayon hanggang pagtanda never kong naranasan na ipahiya ako, or even
comparing with my cousins. May cousins kasi kaming magkakapatid na kapantay na kapantay
talaga namin, yun din yung reason kung bakit ako pumasok ng mas maagap, never ako
nacompare ng parents ko na dapat ganyan, tas nasa lahi din namin yung nasa business
courses, yung sinabi ko naman na magpo-polscie ako wala naman sila sinabi.

a) Describe your relationship to your father.

Very supportive, Present dad, pag sa school affairs dun sya, kahit sya lang yung lalaki
dun wala syang pake: puro babae yung ka-meeting nya, puro babae yung kasabay nya kumuha
ng card…Kahit saan lumakad, lagi ko syang kasama. Pag sa school yung dad ko lagi yung
pumupunta kasi sya yung nasa labas (Very close talaga sa isat-isa)

Describe your relationship to your mother.

Ganon din very close, yung mom ko sa bahay sya nakafocus, very
domesticated kasi yung mom ko, hindi lamang sya sa school, sa bahay sya palagi
or sa simbahan, sa mga extracurricular (very close din talaga sa isat-isa)
Very domesticated mom, kasama lagi

Describe the relationship of your parents to one another.

Walang away, hindi nambabae yung tatay ko, wala talaga, hindi ko nawitness na
nagbabatuhan sila….

Still very sweet for 36 years

The respondent stated that she is equally close with her parents and had never
seen both of her parents to argue with one another, the idea of cheating doesnt
happen

Walang batuhan or such na nakikita nya sa ibang parents nung classmates nya

Are your parents separated? How did it affect you?

Hindi, nung highschool ako, madami akong friends na – that came from a broken family, parang lagi kong
kini-question na “bakit kaya hindi kami ganon”. Minsan nahihiya ako magshare, kasi baka I will came up
as insensitive, kasi nga masaya yung childhood ko, okay yung family ko, so parang nagkaroon ako ng
something na hindi ko na lamang ishashare kasi nga baka masaktan sila.

Her parents are not separated, but it made her question why her family isnt the
same with her classmates with a broken family
Nahihiya sya mag share, baka mag come up as sensitive sya kasi masaya yung
childhood nya, okay yung family nya kaya baka masaktan nya yung iba

Goodnight pi, harurut

harurut

Tutulog na ako. Good night bukas naman harurot

lagi kasama sa mga school activities, wala paki alam kahit mag-isang lalaki sa school, kahit
puro babae yung kasama sa oag kuha ng card and etc oks lamang, lagi kasama

Very close sa isat isa

Open emotionally and mentally, can discuss different problems that are happening freely
without any hesitation

Meron kasi kaming

 Mixed of a traditional and modern yung approach ng parents nya, hindi strict sa wants and
needs pero practical, well pampered din sa support. Family doesnt practice rewards
system, yung concept of doing something a for the glory of lord at for personal growth, -
though walang reward system, still prioritizing yung mga pangangailangan nya, laging may
mental process na separating your wants from needs kaya practical talaga sya

Sa Support, laging kasali sa contest (very supportive sa gusto nya kahit di sya magaling
kumanta gow pa din) (factor that boost her confidence)

Decision making- parent practice planning ahead of time just to support her

Household with no bad words (meron laging you shouldn't do this, shouldn't do that)

Parents ay madaming friends who often visit their house (laging may adult talk) at lagi sya
pinagsasabihan na bawal makisali agad (lagi pinoprocess up until now)

Never naranasan na ipahiya ng parents, napapagsabihan ng maayos, no comparison between

cousin kahit may talent yun sha wala

Walang say sa mga decision nya

Masaya yung childhood

Walang batuhan or sakitan or such

Financially stable but also practical

NARRATIVE DRAFT FOR PSYCHOLOGICAL PROFILE D (Parenting Style)

The participant is well surrounded by loving and supportive people, especially her parents; these
molds her into becoming a who she is right now – confident to pursue what she like, and can openly
discuss anything to her family.

Though her mother and father doesn’t practice any kinds of reward system in motivating, she
still becomes an achiever due to concept of “doing something for the glory of lord and personal growth”,
this was implanted to her at the very young age. Also, the participant did mention that her parents
always process things before deciding, this influences her to become more practical – prioritizing needs
over wants.

At the very young age, she witnessed how supportive both of her parents are as she joins to
different contest. She knew for a fact that she wasn’t that talented, but despite that her parents are
always present in supporting her. Additionally, her parents always plan ahead just to sustain what she
likes in the future, not hesitating to encourage her to do what she likes. This contributes greatly to the
participants self-esteem because she has a strong support system while growing up.

She is both close to her mother and father up until now, they have built a strong connection with
each other simply because arguments and misunderstanding is not that present in their household. She
never witnesses any sorts of violence between her parents unlike with any other families including her
classmates and friends. However the idea of having a great childhood and a sweet relationship to her
parents and family somehow ---- holds her back in sharing her life experiences. She doesn’t want to
offend nor come out as insensitive especially to those who aren’t experiencing life as her – well provided
and showered with love and support by her parents and family.

Growing up, the participant had a happy childhood. She was surrounded by supportive parents,
and as the youngest child, she was pampered with love and care. In their household, she has role models
to look up to. Her wants and needs are provided. She was also not neglected in school; whenever there
were situations where bullying arose, mental processing was always done at home where her parents–
especially her mom–talk to her. In addition, no physical or mental abuse afflicted her while growing up.
Communication is always present between her and her parents until the present. Her parents are very
much open with her, both emotionally and mentally.

An experience that the participant unexpectedly had when she was young was the time when
she brought home a medal from a reading contest that she also so unexpectedly joined. She went to
school at an early age since she insisted to her parents that she no longer had friends to play with so she
felt like she already need to go to school. Likewise, according to the participant, people around her
perceive her–except her parents who do not put pressure on her–as someone who is not smart since she
struggled to fully write her name back then and she was always left behind by her classmates. She was
convinced that she was not smart until her grade school teacher entered her in a reading contest out of
the blue. Her parents did not know about it as it was a spur-of-the-moment decision, she surprised not
only herself but her mother when she brought home a medal. As stated by her, that was the highlight of
her childhood.

The participant has no severe/traumatic instance/s wherein a separation from her family
affected her greatly. However, her 8th grade in high school became a period of adjustment for her
towards becoming a young independent student since her mother could no longer be as attentive as she
was before due to church activities where his older brother–who is a priest and was gone for 6 years–
also just recently attended. Her mom was always there for her, even after school, so the slight change
still affected her so much. She felt deprived and neglected, she was used to her mother’s presence all
the time and had a chit-chat with her when she arrived home from school. She has communicated about
this matter to her mom and she came to a realization that it’s time for her to explore and have a social
interaction outside of her family. Her mom explained to her the importance of doing something she’s
happy about. That’s when she started to consider joining school organizations, finding friends, and
broadening up her social circle.
 into sharing what her life is, because

and had never seen her parents to argue

they have a strong bond with each other and can open emotionally and mentally in discussing
different problems that arises.

The participant but this makes her to

did join different contest

Her parents truly love her, they plan things ahead for her future, to support and sustain

in aspects of material things,

her in separating

it doesn’t hinder her to become an achiever. The concept of doing great is for personal growth and

The participants movement and truly open with her parents

loves her parents

49:25

d. Resilience: What are the things that you can still normally do in spite of the problems
that you are experiencing? Anu-anong mga bagay ang nagagawa mo pa rin sa kabila ng
iyong kinakaharap na suliranin?

I Still go out with friends, friends outside the school, kasi alam nilang nahihirapan ako, kasi alam
nila na hindi na ako tatakbo tas bigla akong nag decide, yun nakakalabas pa din ako kasama
sila. Nagsikap din talaga ako na, during uuwi ako, makakausap ko pa din yung parents ko,
makakapag dinner pa din kami. And then yung boyfriend ko, biggest support system ko during
that time of election, he made sure na makakapag date kami at makakapag distress ako away
from things.Di ko din naman napabayaan ang acads ko, nakapag thesis naman ako, nakapag
pasa ako, nakapag exam ako on time, ayun hindi naman apektado ang mga ganong bagay.
kasi akala nga ay hindi na sya tatakbo then tbigla na sya nag decide

Nagsikap na every uuwi galing scholl makaka usap pa din yung parents, makakapag dinner with
them

Boy friend may date pa din kasi yun nga yung support system during election ayun, make sure
na may date to distract away from things

Di din napabayaan ang acads, nakapag thesis pa din, nakapag exam on time, hindi apektado
ang mga ganong bagay

e) Protective Factor: What/Who gives the feeling of calmness and safety that motivates
you to go in life? Ano o sino ang nagbibigay sa iyo ng pakiramdam na mapag-aruga o
ligtas na nagtutulak sa iyong magpatuloy sa buhay? 50:54

Yung fact na

Mom and family, yung parents nagbigay ng calmness, kasi nung time na yun gusto ko na talaga
sumuko, yung end nung day nung filing di kami nakapag file tas nag rise pa yung
disqualification issues and yun, tas nakita ng parents kaya nag aalala, uuwi sya na pagod na
pagod

Pagpasok na pagpasok nya sa bahay iiyak na sya, ipaghahandan pa lang ng food ng momy nya
iiyak na agd sya, pagpasok ng dining table uupo sya then iiyak at walang sasabihin, tas
sasabihin ng nanay na ano na naman daw ba ang nangyari ano na naman ang ginawa sa
kanya tas iiyak lamang sya, tas tinanong sya if gusto nya daw ba talaga yung gawa nya, if gusto
nya isusuport sya, pero ang mas gusto ay kung ano yung makakabuti sa kanya, pinapakalma, if
gusto mo manalo set aside muna yung emotion sa iba dito ka na lamang umiyak

Lahat ng gusto nya na ulam niluto

Kasi during that time

Yung fact na

Mom and family, yung parents nagbigay ng calmness, kasi nung time na yun gusto ko na talaga
sumuko, yung end nung day nung filing di kami nakapag file tas nag rise pa yung
disqualification issues and yun, tas nakita ng parents kaya nag aalala, uuwi sya na pagod na
pagod

Pagpasok na pagpasok nya sa bahay iiyak na sya, ipaghahandan pa lang ng food ng momy nya
iiyak na agd sya, pagpasok ng dining table uupo sya then iiyak at walang sasabihin, tas
sasabihin ng nanay na ano na naman daw ba ang nangyari ano na naman ang ginawa sa
kanya tas iiyak lamang sya, tas tinanong sya if gusto nya daw ba talaga yung gawa nya, if gusto
nya isusuport sya, pero ang mas gusto ay kung ano yung makakabuti sa kanya, pinapakalma, if
gusto mo manalo set aside muna yung emotion sa iba dito ka na lamang umiyak

Lahat ng gusto nya na ulam niluto

Her parents are not separated, but it made her question why her family isnt the
same with her classmates with a broken family
Nahihiya sya mag share, baka mag come up as sensitive sya kasi masaya yung
childhood nya, okay yung family nya kaya baka masaktan nya yung iba

Goodnight pi, harurut

harurut

Tutulog na ako. Good night bukas naman harurot

lagi kasama sa mga school activities, wala paki alam kahit mag-isang lalaki sa school, kahit
puro babae yung kasama sa oag kuha ng card and etc oks lamang, lagi kasama

Very close sa isat isa

Open emotionally and mentally, can discuss different problems that are happening freely
without any hesitation

Having a strong support system enables the participant to become a strong individual in
adapting and surpassing such difficulties. Despite the problems that arises, she never forgets to allocate
time to hang out with her friends outside the school, and to eat dinner with her family. Also, the
participant’s relationship with her boyfriend doesn’t change at all, they can still go out in date to escape
from different happenings in life. Additionally, she did mention that problems don’t affect her much in
academics, she can still comply her responsibilities on time, and can still exert the same effort just like
any other days.

Despite the problems that arises, the participant can still hang out with her friends, and also, she never
forgets to allocate time to eat with her parent because they are her source of comfort and
understanding. Her boyfriend never fails her in giving the time to escape from the overwhelming
happenings. Additionally, she did mention that problems don’t affect her much in academics, she can
still can comply her responsibilities on time with much effort just like any other day.

makes her strong as an individual

She stated that her source of strength and support is her parents. Though there are times that
she wanted to give up, her parents are always by her side to lighten the situation – making her feel less
anxious. She was always asked by her parents about the things she needs (food she likes to eat and etc)
in order to make her feel at ease. Also, she did mention that her parents always asked her every time
whether she is okay or not, they never fail to assure her that she is not alone in her battles.

The participant’s comfort zone is her household, it is where she can fully express herself truly
and her go to place whenever she feels down and anxious. It’s not just the house which comforts her but
also the people within, rather.

and she is not alone in her battles.

words that assures her that she is not alone like “

affirmation from her parents was al

That time of wanting to give up